Whilst in very severe cases of anger this is the case and would definitely require anger management - what I prefer to define as'aggressive anger ', you will find other cases that require equally robust anger management but where in actuality the signs of anger are not so obvious. It may be the case that we have anger that's'simmering beneath the surface'sometimes for a long time frame - what I call'passive anger '. While this could not reveal itself as full blown rage, it may have an equally detrimental impact on our life - maybe even more-so than aggressive anger as this kind of deep-rooted passive anger does not seem to really have a release-valve.
It is all well and good discussing what anger management evaluation involves, why it pays to and other areas of anger management and anger more generally -something I have discussed in other articles and is going to do so in forthcoming ones- but unless we realise we have an anger problem in the first place, it is simply pointless talking about effective treatments. After all, unless we all know that we have trouble, we cannot go to the next step of addressing this. With this specific in your mind, the remaining article will give attention to reading the signs of anger for both'aggressive'and'passive'anger. Several of those may sounds pretty obvious but are important to notice most of the same. ANGRY OUTBURSTS, SHOUTING, PHYSICAL VIOLENCE AND AGGRESSION - This is the easiest identifier of anger for obvious reasons. As discussed above, this is the classic kind of anger - that's simple to define and easy to learn once we are experiencing it. As displayed in lots of soap operas, films and so forth; this aggressive anger can build-up over a long time frame as'passive anger'or simply just arise without this. Regardless of the cause, this anger expresses itself in the shape of vocal shouting, physical violence from throwing objects across a room to violence towards another person. This may have disastrous effects on our life. If this happens at the job it may cause disciplinary action or socially cause lack of friendships. In the shape of domestic violence or assault towards another individual, it may cause a criminal conviction and the consequences that arise from this. FEELING STRESSED AND IRRITABLE - Stress is probably one of the very common reasons for anger and in turn, anger (especially when it is passive) can cause further stress. This vicious cycle may have consequences for all of us, our friends, family and colleagues. When feeling this build-up of anger it is recommended to get anger management. Unlike popular belief, enough time for anger management isn't after a violent outburst or indeed, anger does not require to surface as aggression to be classified as anger. Feeling this develop of anger -whether it's been for a couple days, weeks, months as well as years- is just a sign that we are experiencing an anger problem, with the likelihood being that the longer we leave it unaddressed, the worse the anger and consequences of the anger may become and the harder it will be to rid ourselves of it. To conclude; it sounds a quite simple task theoretically to determine if we truly need anger management or not but is in practice extremely difficult. Many people believe that because they think angry they require anger management classes when really they do not. At one other end of the spectrum you will find the ones that do not realise they have anger - but could really benefit from anger management. The true difficulty arises once we start to think about the signs of anger. Yes, in a few circumstances such as aggressive anger, these signs are easy to learn and in lots of situations we might have little choice but to get anger management - maybe after a violent incident. In other circumstances however, like the passive anger I have discussed, these signs may (a) not be witnessed by other people and (b) we might still be unsure ourselves that we are now angry. By this I imply that we all know we are experiencing a change in mood but nonetheless not realising that we have an anger problem.
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